How do you know you need post abortion healing?


Perhaps you are thinking, “Okay so I had an abortion. But that is in the past. Do I really need to be healed?” Some women seemingly never need to work through any kind of healing process. But for many women, the memory of abortion lies hidden and affects us in many ways we may never have realized. Is that true for you?

See if you recognize yourself in some of the following questions:

- Do you feel reluctant to talk about the subject of abortion or do you feel guilt, anger or sorrow when discussing your own abortion?

- Do you tend to think of your life in terms of before/after the abortion?

- Do you have lingering feelings of resentment or anger toward people involved in your abortion, such as the baby’s father, friends or your parents?

- Have you found yourself either avoiding relationships or becoming overly dependent in them since the abortion? Are you overly protective of any children you have now?

- Have you begun or increased use of drugs or alcohol since the abortion, or do you have an eating disorder?

- Have you felt a vague sort of emptiness, a deep sense of loss, or had prolonged periods of depression?

- Do you sometimes have nightmares, flashbacks or hallucinations relating to the abortion?

If so, it is likely you are experiencing pain related to your abortion, and counselling may help you sort through these difficult feelings.

At Options many women have already been helped to come to terms with their decision to have an abortion, either with one to one counselling or in group counselling using a sensitive recovery programme called ‘The Journey‘.

Further help is available for you to deal with your pain:

You can ring Options to speak to a trained volunteer counselor for immediate advice 020 8540 7675 or visit


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