Four important 'No's' for healthy relationships

Four Important 'No's for Healthy Relationships

We’ve all seen the perfect couple picture, be it on TV, in newspapers, in tabloids… In fact, it often seems like almost everyone is in a ‘perfect’ relationship. We like to give off that impression, don’t we?But the truth is that outside observations aren’t enough to tell whether a relationship is healthy or not. The couple sitting snug in the corner of the room, he a protective arm around her, she gazing lovingly into his eyes… there’s much more to a healthy relationship than outside perceptions of perfection.Here are a few things to bear in mind in this area. We’ll go through four ‘No’s’. If you recognise you or your partner in any of these, it might be time to start re-thinking your couple…

1) No being used - Don’t date someone who develops a habit of endlessly asking you to do things for them. This is difficult to spot, as it can often creep up slowly and without warning. But if you find yourself continuously in their service, that’s not healthy.

2) No bargaining - If they say to you “I’ll really know you love me if you just do this”… get out. Get OUT. Your heart is much too valuable to bargain with.

3) No emotional leeching - Don’t date someone who is dependent on you for all their self-confidence, to the point of needing you to get on with life. It is a wonderful thing to be able to rely on one another in a relationship, but if this goes so far as to find all your sense of value in the other person, that’s a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

4) No peer pressure - Don’t date someone who puts pressure on you to do anything you don’t feel comfortable with. The most common example in this arena is that of sex. If they’re putting pressure on you to do things you do not feel comfortable with physically, get out!

If you’re looking for more information on this topic, check out the section “What isn’t a healthy relationship?’ on this website:


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